So this month The 12 Dollar Club is recognising the ones who don't often get the recognition they deserve. Sure we say things like "Wow being a single mum must be so hard", but we have no clue. None.
I am now a mother and for half of the year I am on my own, effectively a single mum. But I still don't have a clue. But I have a better perspective than I did before, let's just say that. I have known and know a few single mum's and I just think they are extraordinary.
It's not that the school run or nap times are so unbelievably hard, it's more the relentless nature of it. Even I can, for half the year, when my husband is home, just have a fit about how tired I am, yell like a brat about exhausted I am when I've just spent 3 hours trying to get my child to take a nap for an hour, and then someone knocks at the door. Sometimes it's not even the hard bits, it's the good bits. You take a photo and want to share that with someone, you want someone to see them brush their teeth for the first time, or eat an entire peach. You just want some small milestone captured and recognised.
I won't even try to imagine how hard it is being on your own, doing it all, all day and all night. Constantly.
I just wanted this month to make a mum I know see that what she does is phenomenal. She lives in my street and the other day was walking her 13 month old, like I was, in the buggy up and down the road, just like I had been doing, except her face - (like mine - exhausted), hadn't been able to let off steam. Her beautiful, well mannered older boy was at school, (I hear her playing cricket with him like a pro, day after day, while simultaneously placating her baby). That day she just looked so tired and yet she still smiled and made a joke about needing a wine.
So this month that's what we're doing. We buying her a lovely cold bottle of wine and a card to tell her that her and all the women like her are just incredible. She is raising two little humans to be husbands and fathers and she is doing it every single minute of every single day.
While our little club is growing in teeny tiny ways, even if you can't be bothered to click and join, then at least go out and just buy a mum you know - who's raising humans alone, a big bottle of wine. And tell her she's amazing, even when it seems like no-one is watching, because we are. And we DO see. And we applaud it.
x Jo and The 12 Dollar Club.
P.S I know so many of you are doing that "oh yeah, I should do this, it's only $1 a month, I'll do it in a minute" and then we don't. I wouldn't either to be honest. I don't click on posts like this all day long. I really don't know how to encourage you to join. But I'm just going to keep doing this anyway, even with my $13 and maybe one of those nights, just before you refill your wine, you might just think, "you know what, It'll actually just take 5 minutes". It would be really lovely to have you on board, because the more of us there are, the more ripples we get to make, and that can only be a good thing.